New Crush

I’m not sure where to begin with this one, so I guess I’ll just give you guys the whole long story ;)

There’s this guy (isn’t that how all stories like this start). One of my childhood best friends has an older brother (no it’s not him, but I did have a crush on him for most of my jr. high/high school years). Anyway, her older brother went to undergrad and grad school at the same university. But for some reason, he didn’t join a frat until he was in grad school. It was an undergraduate fraternity too, so he was hanging out with a lot of guys younger than him. He’s 5 years older than me, so when I was a freshman in college, he was just starting grad school. So his sisters and I used to go to their parties (which were usually full of underage girls. 

I never really like any of his friends during these years, they all seemed so immature and annoying. (obviously, like most frat boys). But it was apparently during these few years of grad school that he met the guy in question, my new crush. They have apparently been friends for a while now (easily 4 years), and I kept hearing people talk about him, but we had never met. My friends brother moved away to california 3 years ago and since then I haven’t spent a lot of time hanging out with his friends. But the occasion of his youngest sister (and a close friend of mine) graduating from nursing school last May, brought him and a lot of his friends out of the woodwork. He flew in for the grad party and a lot of his college friends were invited as well. Including this guy. Let’s just call him Seth.

Seth and I finally met in person at my friend’s graduation party over a year ago. At the time he was dating someone else (living with her actually). So when we first met I didn’t really think anything about it. He didn’t seem too interested in me, and I wasn’t really interested either. I mean, he was cute, there’s no denying that. But at that time I still hadn’t really had a crush on anyone since Mr. LA so my mind didn’t really go there. 

Over the next year, Seth slowly was in my life a lot more. Mainly because he had started spending a lot of time with my Dad (I know, kind of weird). My Dad is actually a minister and Seth had started coming to church. He also had split with his live in girlfriend and was going through a lot of life changes. 

A few times Seth had been at my house for dinner, it was mostly to talk to my dad. Seth’s schedule sometimes meant he couldn’t come to church on Sunday mornings, so my parent’s would invite him over to check in with him. One night we were in the kitchen, talking about the stress of going back to school (he had just started grad school). We commiserated over the feeling of waiting for your life to really start. I told him my whole back story with Mr. LA. 

A few weeks later I found out he had started dating some girl. It didn’t really upset me that much at the time because I didn’t really have a crush on him yet. But when I met her I became even more confused. At this point I didn’t know how old Seth was, but his new girlfriend was very young, like maybe 21. I probably though that Seth was 27. 

They dated through the winter, but then out of the blue a few months ago she dumped him. According to my dad he was pretty torn up about it, since it was so out of the blue. He was pretty down about it for a while. He started coming over more, and I think it was around this time that I started to notice how attractive he was. I still hadn’t really admitted to myself that I liked him. But I certainly thought he was cute. 

One night my sister asked me how old I thought Seth was. I told her I thought he was around the same age as my friends brother, 27. But then my sis told me that he had told the family the other night at dinner that he was in the military before he started college. So he was actually 30. (my kryptonite age)

I was curious as to why my sister had asked me this, so I asked. I said there were only two reasons she would want to know how old he was, #1 if she was interested in him, or #2 if she was trying to set me up with him. Her response was “eww, he’s way too old for me”. So that only left #2, she wanted him to be with me. She finally admitted that she has wanted me to marry him since she first met him. She told me that when she first saw him she said to herself that he was my future husband. 

Now this was a little shocking to me, mostly because my sister has never really taken an interest in my love life, let alone suggested someone for a serious relationship. And here was a guy she believed I could marry. 

So lately I’ve been making a small effort to get to know him better, just become friends. I don’t want to rush into anything. But as always, I will keep you guys updated!